Tuesday, May 3, 2016

Burnout: The Gift Of An Empty Cup

This post has a back story.

I had an idea for writing about burnout, because, I found myself right in the midst of it, again, and was making choices to "cut it off at the pass".  

I was going to tell you all about what I did and how I managed to keep it all together in the process.

I had caught it so early.  There was still time.  Haha!

"Let me be your Navigating Burnout guru!" ;-)

Well, in the 5 days since I started this post, it has become an investigation piece.


Because, it was time for the next phase of my healing, and nothing I had in mind was going to get in the way of allowing what the Universe had in store.


I honestly thought I would be at my day  job for at least a couple of years.

Something I could do while I get the Biz end of things going.

Then, it started getting very strange when I agreed to help out in the office in the mornings.

I believed in the program and wanted to help.

This opened a Pandora's Box of office politics and bull hockey like I had never seen.

Having to constantly stand up for myself, was taking its toll on me.

This is how they choose to run things, accuse first, iron things out later.

Just about every time, I had what I needed to back myself up.

And this last round was simply my boss looking for a scapegoat.

Unfortunately for her, she is dealing with someone who knows all "those" tricks and who puts her health and well being, first.

I let her know in the beginning that if I am taken for granted and tapped out, I will walk, without another job.


Instead of changing my schedule back to what it used to be, while making lifestyle changes at home, I got up out of that meeting and never went back.

My spirit wouldn't let me return.

Anything I had left to give was used up in that meeting.

At the time, it was a horrendously painful decision to make.

My sister and Ken both work there.

My Bridge Job ended up being my "bridge" to a stronger Self on every level.


I don't recommend this to everyone.

I have been planning my possible exit for weeks.

I made sure I had money and options.

Which is why I was initially comfortable making this tough decision, before the reality of how it might affect the ones I love, hit me.


While engaging in some nature, I realized that this was the next phase in my healing.

Due to the nature of what I was coping with, I had let a lot of things go, as far as strengthening my ankle and leg, and got away with just climbing several flights of stairs every day.

Emotionally I feel like I got out of it what I was supposed to.

Obviously my spirit was finished.

I told some ladies in one of my favorite networking groups that work had turned into a midterm exam for standing up for myself.

Apparently, the final exam was that meeting.


I have found burnout to be one of my greatest teachers.

I don't intentionally seek it out.

No one does.

As it was pointed out to me, once you burnout, it's easier to have it happen again.

I took on what I felt I was being led to take on.  It didn't feel like too much, until the extra interaction with my superiors became an issue.

Before I knew it, because of where I am in life and health, I had learned all I was supposed to and it was time to move on.

Every time I have burned out, there has been a wonderful lesson and amazing growth.

This time, though, I felt like the Universe moved me through a Power Course, and not just a learning experience.  Hahah!


How about you?

Have you ever had to cope with burnout?

What did you learn about yourself?

How did it change your life?

I'd love to hear from you.

Leave a comment or drop me a line.


Wednesday, April 27, 2016

Life Empowerment Tips VII

Chill, Center, Relax:  Pandora Style

This month's Life Empowerment Tip is from me.  Ever since I discovered this little nugget of excellence, I've been chomping at the bit to share it with you.

I've recently discovered Pandora.com, the free, online, music channel.

After spending a couple of weeks listening to all my favorite artists, I got the bright idea to see if they had any New Age, Healing, Meditation, Nature music.

Here's what I've discovered, so far, and it's changed a lot of things in my world.

I chose the following three channels:
  • Calm Meditation Radio
  • Sounds of Nature: Tibetan Healing Sounds Radio
  • New Age Ambient Radio

Then, I put Pandora on shuffle and chose only those three stations. 

I have to say, it truly has been very empowering to have access to music that can center and relax me, whenever I want.

But wait!  There's more!

Thanks to the advertising, this is all FREE!

So the zen of the moment gets interrupted for a few seconds.  Most of these songs are over eight minutes long, so I've never been real annoyed.  When it is too much, I simply mute the volume on the device I'm using, for a few seconds.

So!  Head on over to Pandora.com and set up your own account.  It's easy and it will be one of the best things you've ever done for yourself.

I can't wait to hear how this works out for you.


Monday, April 25, 2016



That seems to be the theme for 2016.

Thanks to this time and place, we are losing a lot of our musical artists from the 60s and 70s.

It's just that time of life.

But, we are also losing (Heaven's gain) artists and performers who are not at that time and place.


I have also lost some personal friends and family, as well, over the last seven months.

It feels like it's never ending.

Regardless of the time and place, when it's time to go, it's time to go.

Regardless of whether I've had time to catch my breath from the last loss, another comes my way.

Which is what happened to me, Thursday, April 21st.


I was still reeling from losing a friend when I got up Thursday morning to this:

I always admired this woman, simply because she took her physical difference and found a way to make a living with it, as well as inspire.

Yes, she had her struggles, but she never gave up and was always reinventing herself.


I posted the above post to my personal Facebook account and went on my way.

Bummed that it looked like we lost someone else to a prescription drug debacle, but not necessarily grief stricken because, well, not to be mean, she never took up that kind of space in my heart.

That afternoon, as I was pulling up the Internet to do some work I got the breaking news.

Prince had died.


I could not truly react.

I had stuff to do.

My boss pissed me off, making a big deal about it, telling everyone not to tell me because of how upset I was over David Bowie.

I made a crass comment "That was David Bowie."

I went back to work, with no one understanding why I wasn't more upset.

Especially me.


I went about my day, Friday.

Checked out everyone's Facebook statuses.

I was in total disbelief that I was not taking to Facebook with my grief, connecting with all the others who understood what I was going through.

He was my generation's Bowie.

Always reinventing himself, waving his freak flag, comfortable with his sexuality, another misfit mentor, closer to our age.

In recent years, I had lost track of what he was doing, but that doesn't change the fact that he meant the world to me for the longest time and was a huge influence on my basic values and world view.

An incredible musician/performer and kindred spirit.

I was numb.

I had nothing to say.

Everyone else was saying it for me.

I took my father to his appointment, then this happened:


And if you don't believe me, then you haven't really dug into this blog.

The Universe is always "pulling" stuff like this on me, and if you allow yourself to sit back and really, see, the Universe is always "pulling" stuff like this, on you, as well ;-)

No matter where you go, there you are.

It was all there, waiting for when I was ready.

And Friday night, I was ready.


It's where I connect with like minds.

Where I can easily connect with family and friends, spread out all over the world.

To me it is a gift:

First, all of the responses to the above post:

Then, some funnies:

Finally, the best video ever!


I'd love to hear your Prince memories.

How he influenced your life.

Comment below or drop me a line.


Wednesday, April 20, 2016

Be In The Present Moment


I wanted to talk to you, briefly, about enjoying the present moment.

I recently got together with some old friends.

When my friend, Jen, crashed at my place the night before we went to visit everyone else, we took a picture.

That's me on the left.


We are photographers.

We took our cameras, and Jen also has a camera on her phone.

It's true what they say, when you get together with old friends, you pick up right where you left off.

And, well, the selfie craze was a good 15 years away, the last time we were all in the same room.

Once we got together, we were so in the moment that NO ONE took a picture.

Neither us, nor our other friends.

You know what?

It's wonderful to have friends of such "like mind" that you don't need to prove to anyone that you were together and that you were having fun.


I will always remember that weekend because I was so engaged in the moment.

There is no need for a bunch of photos to jar my memory.

So, let me challenge you.

Spend some time with your friends, without taking a bunch of Selfies.

Simply enjoy each moment and each other.


Thursday, April 14, 2016

So Random...

This is is undoubtedly the most random and non-cohesive post I've ever put together.

The only thing most of the following photos have in common is that they are extra shots that did not fit into what I was creating at the time.

Let's give this a whirl!


I was going to share all the cleaning I did in the end of the year post.

This photo did not make the cut.

Even though the clutter was cut in half, it still looked messy.

It reminded me of Monica's secret closet on Friends, where she hid all the stuff she didn't have a place for, thus shattering her Martha Stewart, perfect image.

BTW - Did you know that when you Google "Monica's Closet" this is what pops up?

Pretty cool - huh?



The picture says it all.

I was working on my bed one day, looked down, and saw this:


This is what I kept telling my good friend who came to visit me the weekend of April 8th.

Heaven forbid either of us take the time to check an actual weather report.

We woke up on April 9th to this:

Not my photo - Credit goes to Jennifer White
That's me cleaning off her car in exaggerated disbelief.  Ha!

It was beautiful.

She's currently living in Tennessee and grew up near Chicago.

We met when she was going to school in Detroit.

I went inside to take care of something and let her play in the snow.

She was ecstatic :)


And - Finally.

After not having pinkeye for over 39 years, I have gotten pinkeye twice since I started my new job, even though I do all I can to keep my hands away from my face.

Here's a throw away from the end of the year post where I shared my first round.

The second time around I was determined to treat it naturally because I was not about to drag it out for days until I could see a doctor.

Here's what I discovered:

1/4 tsp. honey (I used really good, locally harvested honey)
1/4 C distilled water
pinch of sea salt

First of all,  I keep the infection from spreading by frequently rinsing my eye with water, away from the other eye.

(I did this the first time and the doctors were astounded that the infection had not spread to my other eye, or to Ken.)

I put 2 drops of the above mixture in my eye every couple of hours, while also continuing to rinse.

This makes your eye look a little worse, AT FIRST!

I went to bed and when I woke up the infection was gone.

When I returned from work their was a little irritation in the corner, so I did the above routine until I went to bed.

For the following week, any time my eye was a little "waterier" than the other, I put in the drops and rinsed.


First of all, if I have no problem putting chemical antibiotics in my eye, why would I not try a little honey diluted in water?

Secondly, it makes perfect sense.

Honey is the original anti-bacterial Bad-Boy.

And, PLEASE!  If you are allergic to honey, or distilled water or sea salt, do not use this.

Also, I am NOT a doctor, I am NOT a licensed homeopath or nutritionist.

I have been exploring alternative/home remedies since the early '90s.

There is no scientific proof that this, or most home remedies work.

I just know they work for me.

I also know that the hospital my good friend works at carries medical grade honey as a prescription for nursing mothers with raw nipples.

These are the facts.

Proceed with caution, at your own risk.

You have been educated and you have been warned.

Until next time!

Much love,

Monday, April 4, 2016

I Wrote A Book!

I know!



This is my third, free eBook.

Only, this one will not have limited availability.

This will be free forever :)

And this one is not written under my pen name.

It's all me.

No hiding.

Sooooooooo CRAYZEEEE!


A Healing Journey is a compilation of blog posts I wrote during the first year after my ankle fracture.  I have included an Introduction and Conclusion, as well.  

Click Here to download your copy.

This book is meant for anyone who is healing anything, not just an ankle fracture, though I do get very "fracture specific" in one chapter.

Feel free to share it with your friends :)

For me, this was a very cathartic process. 

Creating this book from old posts, this whole experience - it has made me realize that the sooner I allow the money for an assistant, the better.  Haha!  

Typesetting is no longer the relaxing activity it used to be for me ;-)

Seriously, though, This is a free .PDF for you and your friends.


The font is large so you can view it one page at a time.  

It is also set up so you can print it, double sided, as well.

I hope you enjoy it!

Love and Hugs,

Tuesday, March 29, 2016

How I Refilled My Creative Well

Something was missing.


I'd been doing EVERYTHING I could think of to fill what was on empty.

It can be hard to tell sometimes, what it is that needs refueling.

Since a great deal of my creative energy still goes to healing my ankle, and, more recently, a bad tooth -- I decided that my creative juices were what needed replenishing.

So, I chose to inundate myself with art.


Started by watching one of my favorite, independent films from the last three years, Adult World.

I love everything about this movie.

It's basically a perfect articulation of how Gen X feels about the majority of Millennials, courtesy of John Cusack and director, Scott Coffey .

And the fact that the two Millennials, "fighting the tide" in this film are Emma Roberts and Evan Peters, well, this of course led to, what turned out to be needing a huge dose of Ryan Murphy.

It all began with American Horror Story: Coven. (If you are a sensitive person, these trailers may be a bit much for you.)

Which led to a two week Asylum/Freak Show binge.

Murphy gets such incredible performances out of his actors.

And everyone who really knows me, knows that I could watch Evan Peters everyday and never get tired of it ;-)

After that, I felt a lot less depleted, but not inspired at all.


So, I started listening to all my favorite music on Pandora.

This helped immensely, which led to realizing that, thanks to all my energy being focused on my degree in the 2000s...

I had never truly explored Jack White's entire repertoire.

He's a Detroit-er.

I like to call Detroit the "Yale" of Rock and Roll College.

Toughest audiences on the planet, because they are filled with musicians ;)

I didn't need to be advised by an entertainment reporter in regards to his live performance.

AND I haven't been to a live show in ages: the one thing that ALWAYS fills me up and inspires me.

This was a no-brainer.

I moved on to watching a live Jack White performance.

Which led to a 24 hour Jack White binge on YouTube.

Which, then, of course! led to me feeling a bit like a silly school girl, so I dug a bit into my psyche to justify where I was at - haha! ;-)

It's the innovativeness of his music and his drive.

Tickle my brain and you've got me.

Inspire me?  Well, then it's all over.

But more importantly...


He reminds me of a time when I was fearless and chose to be in a place where the creative energy was blossoming into something very unique and cool: Detroit, 1990 - 1996

A time when I never questioned my intuition and did exactly what felt right and light.

He was there too, and like everyone from that time who was meant for something more, he had to leave Detroit to truly blossom.


Of course a big part of that frame of mind is the 20 year old's world view.

But, I've discovered that it is possible to get that inspiration and drive back.

You just need to replenish what you've drained.

No, you won't feel like you are in your 20s again. You will feel better.

Better because your creative well will be full, you will be inspired and you will have more drive...

- BUT! -

You will also be WISER, and this is worth every depeleted well that you have ever filled and will ever need to fill in the future.


I dreamed I was walking around who knows where in the Astral Plain, with my brother of another mother, who is also a former band mate from that special time in Detroit.

We walked past Ryan Murphy, Jack White, Evan Peters and all sorts of other people who creatively inspire me.

We all smiled and nodded as we passed each other.

No time for chit-chat.

All of us on our way to where our intuition was leading us.

The next stop in our creative journey.

I'm going to venture to say that dream means my creative well is full enough to move on.

How about you?


Love and Hugs,

P.S.  Feeling depleted?  Be sure to check out the very special Mini Spiritual Retreat I created just for you.  It's free and has already helped so many people "refill their cup".

Wednesday, March 23, 2016

My Funny Facebook Page II

Way back in December while scrolling through my personal Facebook feed, I noticed how often I was laughing out loud and decided to share what was happening, here at SacredCyberSpace.com.

I had planned on doing this type of post on a monthly basis and sort of did another one when David Bowie passed away, but the humorous posts got lost in the shuffle.


If you are in need of a laugh, have a seat and start scrolling.

This is a pretty good round, and there is a lot!

And, as in the first post, be forewarned.  There is a lot of inappropriateness and swearing ;-)


First of all, I feel it's very important to share with you, who my 80s, music boyfriend would have been:

OK.  Now that that's taken care of, let's move on.

I discovered Pandora.com a couple of weeks ago:

But then I realized that Pandora doesn't have everything.

This led to Ken and me creating a new game.

Sticking with the music theme, these next three should make you chuckle and lift your spirit.

Get it?  Purple "hays".  I know.  Wha-wha-wha :P

A funny post share from Ringo Starr.

I'll tell you who would have loved this one, Mr. Lennon himself. :)

You need to be a hardcore Rocky Horror Picture Show fan to get this one.

This one is priceless.

The innocence of Pooh combined with the wisdom of Queen. 

Which brings me to my favorite Alternative Disney photo to date...


I broke my rule and got into the political discussion arena when I started learning what was going on at Trump rallies.  I just couldn't stay silent.

I had a couple of days with some pretty heavy posts.

The mood really needed to be lightened, so I posted this:


This cracked me and all of my "friends of a certain age" up.

It was also pointed out that, around this time in TV land, every show had an edge-of-your-seat, rattlesnake bite episode. 

So, I would bet money that you could ask any Gen Xer how to handle a rattlesnake bite and they would be able to tell you - haha! :D

These are just funny:


The spiritual funnies...

All righty!

Hopefully I won't wait so long to do another one of these.

Love and giggly blessings to you,

Tuesday, March 15, 2016

Daylight Savings, Coffee And Time


This is my remake of the classic Simon and Garfunkel album, Parsley, Sage, Rosemary and Thyme ;-)

But, seriously folks, I need to share what's up over here in my world, so this blog and what pops up the rest of the year, makes sense.


Springing forward always hits me pretty hard and this year I've decided that coffee is officially part of my "Keep it Movin'" arsenal of tricks.

I am not a coffee drinker.

I love it, but it does not like me.

But, as I've gotten older, I've found that, from time to time, a shot of coffee in the morning actually benefits me, instead of getting in the way.

So, that's that.


Things are so different this year.

I truly am branching out and building what I've started here at SacredCyberSpace.com.

As I mentioned last month, I am also, currently doing it all myself.

I also have a day-job that means the world to me.

Therefore, something has to give, so I can allow these dreams to unfold.


This is something I usually do in the summer months, but I'm going to get a head start this year.

I'll only be posting four times a month, probably for the rest of the year.

Typical Gemini that I am, I have about 13 projects started.

Typical Gemini that I am, none of them are finished.

The path has been cleared, and it's time for me to move forward on this journey.


The good news is, if you are a regular reader, you will have the opportunity to help me beta test courses and get first glances at books -

As long as I have room!

Therefore, as always, it would behoove you to join my inner circle.

These people always get first dibs when I need help.


I'll see you next week,

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