Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Life Empowerment Tips VIII

Well, it's time for my favorite post of the year.  The post where I share what I was actually doing all summer after scheduling three months worth of entries.

Unlike year's past, this summer's update is short and sweet:  I helped my parents find a new place to live, and then I helped them move.

I didn't work.  This was my job.  I looked after my family all summer.  My sister also had transportation issues that took up most of the summer.  So, it was all about making sure she and Ken got to work, and that my parents got moved ;-)

I did try to get away at the beginning of August, but my health had been way more compromised than I thought, and I ended up cancelling.  So disappointing, but I didn't realize how ill I was until everything started falling apart.

But, I did take some time for me and this next little life-changing tidbit is very exciting and very powerful.

This summer, above anything else I've done, watching this documentary profoundly changed, just about everything.

Tony Robbins: I Am Not Your Guru will give you great insight into his life changing program and his own personal philosophy.

For me, what I love about Robbins, more than anything, is, in the end, his whole process, boils down to science.   Which makes him a great teacher to share with someone who is highly skeptical of the of the Personal Growth movement.

It really takes life to a whole other level.   This is a must see!

It's only on Netflix, and, NO! this is not a sales link.  I genuinely want you to benefit from this as much as I have.

If you don't have Netflix, I'll let you in on a little secret.  You can sign up for Netflix and cancel it when you are finished watching what you want to see. So, for a little less than $9, you can watch I Am Not Your Guru and anything else that might interest you, then cancel at the end of the month.

For less than a trip to Chipotle, you can do something good for yourself, and have a month's worth of entertainment in the process.

Go for it!  What do you have to lose?

Message me after you watch it.  I'd love to hear what you thought, who you related to, etc.


Tuesday, August 30, 2016

Prosperity Mindshift


I had a huge shift in my prosperity mindset this month and want to get real for a minute here...

I have a new job.  I am so blessed.  It totally fits, in every way imaginable.  And it's a "9-5, Monday-Friday" kind of deal.


I had a revelation toward the end of last month.  I started developing my own business to not only follow my dreams, but as a means to fill in the financial gaps for the 4 to 5 months my work in education did not cover.

For nearly three years my  mind has been set on figuring out how to make this work, so I chose to look at my education work as my "bridge job"; the job that I would eventually be able to let go of once my own thing was bringing in what I needed.  Then, while totally engaged with helping my parents move, I had an epiphany.

I've been struggling because this mindset is limited and comes from coaches who walk away from corporate jobs with a fat savings account to help them set up their own thing.  If that's the bag of tools you have to work with, then, yes, the potential is there to recreate a full-time income, fairly quickly.

It's no wonder I've been spinning my wheels.


Once I surrendered this perspective, everything fell into place. (Here's the post from the blog, about how it all came together.)

I am a creative person.  How can I do what needs to be done when my mind is preoccupied with what I'm going to do when the day job goes on hiatus?

While I was waiting for my new job to start, I opened up my email and found this:

Support from two very successful women who feel the exact same way: business coach, Marie Forleo and actress, Bryce Dallas Howard.  This is a "grab a cup of tea and an apple" kind of video.  It's a little over 50 minutes, and also easy to listen to while doing other things.

I have just finished my first full week at my new job, with overtime.

When I got home Friday night, out of nowhere, the energy to try out a creative project I've been wanting to do for two months, just took over.

It's not perfect, and I already have plans to take it off and start over, but, it let's in the light, I don't have to look at my neighbor's house and I left clear spots so the cats can still look out the window.


The last few years I've known that I needed a more traditional means of income, but struggled to determine what direction to head in, as so many "traditional" jobs burn me out quickly, due to the box I have to stay in.

I also had financial issues that I was still clearing up and so many "traditional" jobs check your credit before they hire you.  It's legal in the state of Ohio and forced me to steer clear of work I knew was not for me anyway.

Then this great little, entry level spot with a non-profit organization fell in my lap.  It's appealing, to me, like education was, because though it is structured, it's always changing and there is also a lot of room for creativity.

Plus, once I get my "sea legs", making room for my gifts will be so much more doable.


Do you have any thoughts that have been limiting your prosperity?

Take a moment, and make a list of what's working and what's not working.

Then surrender the whole thing with the intention that any shortsightedness be revealed when it's time.

This is the best way to let the Universe know you are ready for change.


Tuesday, August 16, 2016

Personal Power And "Manifesting Big"!

So, something profound happens and where is the first place I want to go?

Here, of course.

Because, when I share how walking my talk affects my life, I want you to see that you have the power to change your life in ways you could never have imagined, too.


As my inner circle already knows (sign up here if you want to be included), I've spent the bulk of this summer helping my parents find a new place to live, helping them move and now, helping them unpack.

It has been quite a ride, and in all honestly, it could have been a lot worse. 

I am very grateful.

But, the whole point to this summer was that I would be going back to work, when all was said and done.

Gotta keep that money flowing!

Only problem is, I was exhausted not only from the move, but from some health issues that resulted from the stress, and others that are just par for the course at my age (details to follow in a later post ;)

I didn't know what to do.

All I knew was, everything I've done up to this point in my life was no longer doable.

I had no idea what to pursue or even visualize, other than I needed something that would allow me the time, energy and money to build my own business. ---> All without having to buy a whole new wardrobe or get my hair done ;-)

And I surrendered.


You know what I'm talking about.

A day where everything in front of you is no longer acceptable.

It all has to change and you're the only one who can change it.

It was time.

Time for me to get back to work.

So, I did the work, again, and surrendered, again.


Due to the heat, I spent a little too much time on Facebook.

I had fun, but I needed to get out of there!  Haha!

I was on my way to log out when a friend posted that she was interviewing for a position that needed to be filled where she works.

I sent her a private message.

We set up an interview for the next day.

And I now have a job.


Nope - this is not the first time I have acquired a job in this manner.

The first was, last year, when I finished physical therapy and had to get back to work, somehow (still not very strong and we had no car).

I have studied manifesting techniques and processes for over 27 years now.

I have learned to manifest all manner of things, but have always had a block when it comes to money.

Then I virtually bumped into Reba Linker, one day, while surfing in the Online Sea ;)


She is one of my favorite coaches and one of my biggest supporters.

She has written several books, but her "Little Book of Manifesting Big: The Gift of Your Own Power" has been a life changer for me.

I helped her beta test the course she created, based on this book, before I actually read the book, and this is what really made all the difference in the world.

Her method was the missing piece, for me.

And, coincidentally, she is selling the course for a very low rate right now.

Given everything I've accepted and claimed in the last year, I can tell you, it is worth ten times what she is selling it for.

This is a genuine plug from the heart - I AM NOT! going to be financially compensated if you purchase the course.

I want you to learn to change your life, as profoundly as I've learned to change mine.

All I can do is lead by example.

If you do the work, it will work.


Monday, August 8, 2016

Gen-X Sensiblities

It's amazing how life can change on a dime.

Or how you can know in your gut you are not meant to permanently be somewhere, even though you are doing all you can to make it work because it's just too convenient.

Six days after I posted this, I experienced a profound spiritual and emotional shift and nothing has been the same since.

At the moment I posted this, I was being sincere.  I really was looking forward to going back.

And almost one month later, it was over.

Even though I felt it coming, it was still a bit of a shock.

I prefer to see the writing on the wall and give notice.  I haven't walked off a job in over 15 years.


I had a conversation with my big boss a few months in.

I thought it was a talk where we both came to understand each other, as at that point I was beyond overwhelmed and my health was already suffering.

I found myself here due to an agreement to temporarily take on more than I could truly manage, while they were supposedly trying to find someone else.

"I'll make it easy for you.  You took the management classes.  I am text book Gen-X.  If it comes down to my health, or my job, I will walk, without notice, even if I don't have another job lined up."

Yes, it's that "lack of company loyalty" (because I have learned first hand, more than once, that the company could really care less about me), valuing freedom over "perceived" security and, of course, the fundamental, driving knowledge that I need to be my own boss; It's all of these things and more, which lead me to make the majority of the "crazy" choices I make.


Written in the typical Gen-X tone of aggressive cynicism, yet so funny you could almost pee yourself - I think, if you don't get the empowered humor of this article, then you are probably not the right age ;-)

Oh, and given how great the author looks in the above photo, I have to mention a Gen-X trait that's now something most of us relish...

We have never looked our age. 

When we were in our 20s, we looked like teenagers.  

Chronically frustrated by repeated requests to produce our I.D.s for all those cigarettes we shouldn't have been smoking and all the alcohol we were finally able to legally purchase.

Most people think they hear me wrong when I tell them my age.

When I was 33, "No, you said you were 23, right?"

I just turned 47 and a month or so before my birthday, I had a coworker tell me, "I thought your were 35."

And I don't cover my grey.

I'm not bragging - "I'm just sayin'" ;-)


Another thing we seem to value as a whole, is work/family balance.

Let me tell you a little story:

Last year, another 40 something rocker left us, just like Gen-X rockers have been leaving for over 20 years now (this excludes the incredible, irreplaceable Adam Yauch of the Beastie Boys.)

Scott Weiland, fronted the Stone Temple Pilots.  A band I never liked and never got into, except for that Flies in the Vaseline, tune.  Short, sweet and not too shabby.

So, I visit my brother of another mother.  (You might want to read #2 on this post from my Marla days for a little more clarity ;-)

We're eating and catching up, then, out of nowhere he asks "Did I tell you about STP?"

I had no idea why he was bringing up a band we both are not fond of, and responded, "No."

Turns out my friend's name came up as a possible replacement for Scott Weiland.

Of course, the 20 somethings in us were geeked about the idea, even if the band is not a favorite.

Then, the 47 year old me immediately thought about all the touring, "There's no way he could be away from [his son] that long," I thought.

And so went the story of how he was preparing to audition, and how he then started thinking about all the livelihoods involved with a tour.  

He knew his choices would affect countless others and their families.

He knew in his gut he would make it maybe six months, if he was lucky, before he'd lose it.  

There was no way he could be away from his son that long.

Knowing it would be a waste of everyone's time, he graciously declined the audition.

His son was more important.

And that, my friends is one hell of a Full Circle Moment for not only my friend, but for a little band called Stone Temple Pilots.


All right!

That's all I have for now.

I'd love to know -

What traits make you uniquely someone of your generation?

The traits that make other generations scratch their heads?

Leave a comment below, or drop me a line.


Monday, August 1, 2016

Earth School And Astral Apologies

Every once in a while, I will have a dream that is most certainly a message from my Higher Self, to "cheer up", as well as my psyche working stuff out.

This morning was one of those times.

I had the most exasperating, heartwarming, eye-opening dream.

This dream starred me, Tyler Perry and Madea.


You read that right.

My Higher Guidance also has a wicked sense of humor ;)


It's now, no longer a secret - the fact that I totally admire and love all of Tyler Perry's movies and plays (T.V. shows - meh - but I'm glad they're out there ;) )

But this morning, something happened that has never happened before.

Both Tyler Perry and Madea, a character he plays, were both a part of my dream.


I was running around - in dream land - exasperated about something - who knows what???

I was desperately searching, tearing things up, crying, completely out of control, when, out of nowhere, there was Tyler Perry, sitting at what looked like a desk, like Star Trek.

He soothingly told me to surrender and let go.

That I was putting forth too much effort, misplacing my energy.

Boy! I did not want to hear it, apparently, because I laid into him.

Yelled at him.

Told him he was "being irrational."

"That crap doesn't work all the time!"

"Leave me alone!"


The dream progressed and I later found myself, sitting at a table with Madea.

I was telling her about my morning.

My struggles and how I just yelled and screamed at the one person who actually cared and was trying to help.

I can't remember what she said to me, but the last thing I remember was saying

"And, on top of it all, I owe Tyler Perry a huge apology"

We both smiled knowingly at each other and started laughing hysterically.


Straight from my subconscious to your Internet browser.


Be afraid.

Be very afraid ;-)


I'd love to hear some of your funny dreams.

Dreams with a message for you that also included something ridiculously funny so that you would be sure to remember it when you woke up.

Leave a comment below or drop me a line.

I can't wait to hear from you :)


Tuesday, July 26, 2016

Why I Love American Horror Story

"How can you watch that?!"

I hear this over and over from friends and family who just can't wrap their heads around the fact that I am an American Horror Story fanatic.

And, believe me, no one's more surprised than me.

I have a history of not liking horror movies to the point that if Ken wants to watch one, he waits until I'm not around because I don't want to see or hear it.

But I've noticed a change over the last 12 years.

First, it was Ken getting me into Zombies and Zombie lore, which led to me absolutely going bonkers over The Walking Dead.

Once I became comfortable with the Zombies, I found myself becoming more tolerant of story appropriate violence in any movie, not just horror.

BUT! - the story has to be well written, well acted and produced.

No violence and gore, just to have violence and gore.


Before we had a Neflix account, Ken and I checked out DVDs from our local public library.

We did this for many years, then, in the summer of 2013, Ken came home from the library with a DVD titled American Horror Story.


I mean, look at it!  Wouldn't you be a little pissed?  Haha! ;-)
Me:  "I can't believe you brought home a horror movie!"

Ken: "It's a TV show."

Me: "A whole TV series that's horror! That's even worse!"  (I really think I was looking forward to some serious, mindless, chick flickery ;-)

Ken: "Look, I've heard good things.  Give it 10 minutes, and if you don't like it, you never have to see it again."

Well, needless to say, it all went in a direction NO ONE expected.

We put ourselves on the waiting list for Asylum, with the full understanding that I would only be able to handle one episode at a time.

Yeah, that lasted for about the first four episodes, after that I couldn't stop watching.

SO, WHY?(spoiler ahead ;-)

If you know me, at all, the basics of incredible writing, acting, cinematography, direction, makeup and costumes are covered in the production of this show. Just that alone is enough to satisfy my Inner Art Student - ha!

Also, that first season took place in an old Victorian house.

I used to rent a room in an old, run down, Victorian house.

It's where I met Ken.

I'm glad I don't live there anymore, but I learned to run around that place in the dark, even the basement, without fear.

So, the premise that these people move into an old Victorian house, filled with a bunch of ghosts who died there, where they will also meet their demise as well, was very appealing.

As far as the other seasons go, I binge watch on Netflix, and I selectively take in spoilers throughout the year to prepare me for the craziest things that are in store for me when I finally get there.

But there's so much more that keeps my brain buzzing, like:
  • Freaks and weirdos are key players in each story
  • Difference, no matter what it is, is celebrated or represented.
  • Each season has a lot of the same actors, but they don't play the same characters.
  • Each season is a story, all on its own
  • Just in the last couple of years we have found out that all the stories are connected, and it's unfolding in very unique ways.
  • The keyword American, means that a lot of the subject matter in each season is based on real people, and real horrific things that have happened in American history.
  • The theme of each season is some aspect of human nature that has a history of leading to horrific outcomes in the lives of those involved and those around them.

My favorite ;-)
  • Unlike traditional horror movies where women are objectified, thanks to creator Ryan Murphy being out and proud,the ultimate, genius twist to this series, is that the men are objectified.

Ah! Brilliant! ;-)


There is a bigger reason why my psyche almost craves this show.

So weird for someone who is all about "living from your peace-filled center", right?

Well, I have recently been able to look at these past 12 years in another light.

I have spent the better part of this time, working with at-risk youth.

The kids in the school I worked at were all mostly in foster care and group homes.

Most of them, guilty of doing terrible things.

Most of them doing these terrible things because, the same or worse was happening to them.

You have to process it, put it in perspective and move on because, "We are here, now.  You are safe.  You are getting help.  Time to move forward."

Then I move on, and land in a program that is meant to be a reprieve for the kids.

Yup.  I was working with kids who weren't safe.

They would leave me and go home to horrendous lives.

Sexual abuse, physical abuse, verbal abuse, hunger, neglect.

It was my bosses job to keep Protective Services notified of red flags.

My job to keep an eye out for them.


So, yes, this is why I find a strange comfort in watching this show.

Not only is Ryan Murphy, the show's creator, a contemporary and kindred spirit, he has this unique ability, while in that world, to make sense of that which is horrific.

The world is a beautiful place.

There are amazing, incredible things that humans are capable of.

And, there is the dark side.

I'm very realistic.  I've never been one to put on rose colored glasses, so this has helped me do the work I've done the last 12 years.

But, dealing with this side of life takes its toll.

I do get good reports from my former students, but the majority of the news I get involves death, addiction, abuse, neglect and, yes, even suicide.

The kids I worked with at my last job?

I heard about their horror stories every day.

They are living them, even as I write this.


This is why. 

Sometimes, I just need to immerse myself in a world where all of this darkness and despair makes sense and has a purpose.

A world where darkness and despair, are transformed into something better than could possibly be imagined: Art!

Art, so pure that even a still from the moving picture is a piece of art all on its own.

Now, this is a promotional photo, but, come on!

Isn't this beautiful?

And it "says" so much.

See, there goes my Inner Art Student, again. ;-)

This photo is in honor of Tyler, a former student of mine who I believe would have grown to look just like Liz, had he not committed suicide in 2012.  

So, maybe this is all a little too morbid.

Maybe it's all a little too real.

All I know is, up to now, I've learned that humans are also capable of horrible things and that death is inevitable.

It doesn't mean I am desensitized and don't grieve.

Of course I am horrified and mourn.

I've just come to accept that humans are flawed and that the process of death is an integral and necessary part of life.

Following the Native American philosophies that speak to me, have helped me put it all in perspective, so I am able to leave my house.

American Horror Story helps me process it all and celebrate the beauty that can evolve from even the most horrific of circumstances.

Because, true to the American need for justice and a happy ending, when each season ends, those who were the most wicked, are served a heaping pile of red, hot Karma.

And the ones who have earned it, some in the bizarrest of ways, "live happily ever after", even if they are dead.


Monday, July 18, 2016

Five Things You Probably Don't Know About Me :: Part II

Back in my pen name days, I decided to share a bit more about myself via a blog post that all bloggers recommend every blogger write:  Five Things You Probably Don't Know About Me.

The "Five Things..." post is a great way to break down the walls and let you see a bit more into my day-to-day world.  I find it really fun to do because I get wrapped up in my mission here at the blog and don't really socialize the way I should ;-)

It's been three years, so I thought it would be fun to do another one, now that I've stepped out from behind my pen name.



Yup.  After years of being told that my massages (family and friends), products, sometimes just my presence, have/has a calming and healing affect on others, I decided to take this intuitive knowing and learn a little more.

Reiki is a healing art, developed in Japan, and I am gobbling up all the information in the class I am taking.  It just makes sense.

At this point, I'm not interested in any sort of hands-on healing.  I am only interested in learning how to heal the world around me through distance healing while coaching my clients and infusing my products with the same healing properties.

Stay tuned!


Tyler Perry is a contemporary.  We are the same age and have walked similar paths.  I love his world view, the life lessons and the tough love he shares via Madea, a character that he also portrays in his plays and his movies.

He is a creative powerhouse.  He writes, scores, directs and performs in his plays and movies, whether Madea is involved or not.  And, a nod to his pure creative nature, he never shies away from the ugliness of life.  It's there in all of his works.  Bad things happening to good people is expected in a Tyler Perry Production.

He is a devout Christian, I do not identify, as such, but we both found direction in our lives via a spiritual path.   I don't fear or scoff religion, so I really do appreciate his message, without getting caught up in the verbiage.  It all comes from Source, no matter how you choose to comprehend it. His expression of Divine Guidance is always heartwarming and entertaining. I always hear something I needed to hear.

We both love and have been guided through rough times via the Oprah Winfrey Show (notice I acknowledge the platform - I'm not an Oprah worshiper but she is most certainly a mentor ;-) Tyler Perry, on the other hand is now good friends with Oprah and works with her regularly.

 Yes.  That's him under all that.  They obviously used some T.V. magic to pull this off ;-)

He makes really good movies that take place outside of the world of Madea.  He also acts in other people's movies, as well.  He was in the first Star Trek reboot movie. A childhood dream come true.  I'm a Trekkie, too, so I can totally relate.

He also makes T.V shows.  I'm not a huge fan of these, but I am a fan of many of the actors on them as they have been in his plays and movies.


I know.  Crazy.  Right?

But, yeah, you will find that the uber-creative really love this show due to the levels of excellence all across the board.  The acting, writing, photography, costumes, sets, directing, production - all of it at a level never seen on T.V. before.

In my circle of friends, it seems that those of us who have dabbled in theater or performing, at some point in our lives, love it the most.

I wait for it to come out on Netflix, this allows me to read spoilers and see visuals so I am not so freaked out when I finally watch the show.  Every season is a cathartic, roller coaster ride that refuels me creatively and helps me cope with complicated emotions that just naturally get crazier with age ;)

I've watched every season at least 3 times.

(I write my blog posts in advance.  This fact led to a whole post about why someone like me, who can not stand horror movies, would love this show so much.  Stay tuned!)



Even before the advent of the Internet, I could stay home for weeks, and never leave the house, if you'd let me.  I'm a creative person.  Get me busy on a project and I will lose all track of time.

Being around other people can be very draining for me, as well. I find if I protect myself before going out, I'm OK.  The older I get, the more resilient I am in this regard. But, when I work outside of the home, my days do include some serious, conscious, down time so I can refuel for the next day.


You know, if you are into all that higher-level, spiritual perspective stuff *wink-wink*, you will find that each generation has a purpose.  A bigger, more spiritually meaningful purpose than all of the obvious cultural changes that will naturally occur.

It has been noted, time and again, through our behavior and time of arrival, that Gen X are warriors.  We are warriors because we came here/were called here because of the Atom Bomb (along with others - there are three waves - but our task has been to pave the way - to make room for a better way).

Yeah - I got a crazy chill when I first learned that.  But, wasn't surprised at all because, in my heart, I've always known the Atom Bomb is what brought me here.


I'd love to hear something about you that I don't know!

Leave a comment below, or drop me a line.

I'd love to hear from you.

Until next time!


Tuesday, July 12, 2016

Running In Circles


A quick post this week as I am in the midst of helping my parents move, along with also allowing something into my life that I have been resisting for years.

This should explain it all ;-)

A great little reminder that "you cannot change what you refuse to confront".

A lovely little lesson, at my expense.  Haha! :D


Incidentally, if you are on Facebook, I'd love to connect with you.

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Until next time!

Love and hugs,

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