Thursday, December 18, 2014

Holiday Gift! 2014


Happy Holidays!

I took a bunch of quotes from this year's blog posts and made a bunch of memes.

Of course, they are perfect for a calendar!

Just click here to download.

You can print it out and hang it up.

Or you can leave it on your desktop.

You can schedule and record appointment and tasks too.

Enjoy!

Love and hugs,


Monday, December 15, 2014

How To Get Out Of A Rut


I found this meme while flitting through my Facebook Page home-feed the other day.

It was so timely for me and for many, I'm sure.

Especially when going through a challenge of any kind.

What you are moving on from is generally right in your face.

Every day!

Whether it be the extra weight you are trying to release, or an energy depleting job.

It is so easy to identify what is wrong and what needs to be changed.

Unfortunately, this is also the best way to stay stuck, exactly where you are.

SAY WHAT!?

Knowing you deserve better and taking action are the best things you can do to change any situation.

But you also have to focus on how you want things to be.

If you are constantly concentrating on what is wrong and what needs to be changed, you will find it much more difficult to move on.

You will get stuck.

Don't use what you DON'T want as motivation.

It won't work.

FOR INSTANCE...

I'll use our current challenge as an example.

Unemployment.

Ken is still looking for work.

He is also trying to get his business up and running at the same time.

Everyday we get up and have to physically navigate the mess in the living room, where he has set up shop.

Every week day, I get up and go to work while he stays home to fill out job applications and get things ready for his biz.

Everyday I come home to a stressed out Ken, who has tried to do everything he can, and gets frustrated that things didn't go the way he wanted.

We have a little powwow and focus on what he actually did accomplish.

I make dinner and chill for the evening.

We eat in the living room and watch a show on Netflix.

While we are eating and trying to chill, we are surrounded by everything Ken needs to work on.

This stresses him out all over again.

Which stresses me out.

He takes a walk to get some fresh air and change his perspective, only to return and be slapped in the face with the very thing he's trying to rise out of.

He then continues with job applications and his biz, until it's time to go to bed.

It's quite the rut.

I HAD A REVELATION...

I knew trying to get him to release his present situation and focus on his future would be wasted energy.

We can't make people do what they aren't ready to do.


(Apparently all memes are brought to you by Cheryl Richardson, today ;-) )

His situation affects me.

We are partners.

So, if my life is not as I would like it, and I know what needs to be done, then I'm the one who should be doing it.

This is what I did:
  • Started making time, daily, to surrender our current situation.
  • During this time I also made a conscious effort to feel like I do when Ken has a steady income.
  • I set alarms in my cell phone with reminders to "reach out" and "connect" with the future that was "reaching back" to me.
  • I also stepped away for a day (like I did when my work situation had to change).

Yes, I know...

These are all things that Ken needs to do as well.

But, he's not ready.

And that's OK.

What matters is that someone in the situation is doing this.

ANY CHANGES?

And how!

First of all, I am way more relaxed about the situation.

But, most importantly, while I was away, spending time with my sister and nieces, Ken got his biz up and running.

He's starting slow, but he's starting.

He is no longer living in overwhelm and fear.

By concentrating on consciously changing my perspective, I released a lot of stress.

My stress was not only affecting me, it was affecting Ken.

Removing it from the equation did nothing but help us both.

YOU KNEW IT WAS COMING -

So, you amazing person you...

What conscious choices can you make this week to change a situation that's staring you in the face?

Even if it's your partner's problem, you can change your reaction to it.

And create the momentum you both need to get things moving.

Love and hugs,


P.S.  I'm thrilled to be offering my signature, Personal Insight Reading, again!

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Monday, December 8, 2014

How To Beat The Holiday Blues



I wrote this post two years ago.

It came from experience and it came from my heart.

I still think it hits all of the key issues that lead to the Holiday Blues and I think it's important to get this information out there this time of year.

REMEMBER...

This too shall pass.

It is temporary.

You have the power to navigate it.

You even have the power to change it.

Love and hugs,



P.S.  I'm thrilled to be offering my signature, Personal Insight Reading, again!

Want to get unstuck?  Want specific direction as to which is the next step for you?  Want to streamline your choices so you can achieve your dreams even quicker?  Want to make your dreams your reality by knowing exactly what action to take?  No matter what it is: business, love, personal, work, I can help you tune into your own inner wisdom so you can make the best decisions for you.

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Tuesday, December 2, 2014

How to Stop Procrastinating



Of course my idea to write about procrastination would end up being the post I kept putting off because I was moved to write about other things.

I'm a Gemini.

We struggle to stay focused and finish what we start.

One of the things I am most proud of was the conscious decision I made, years ago, to acknowledge this and move through it.

And, obviously, as I said, like anyone, I still put things off, I just know how to get clear about it now.

A DISTRACTION

Procrastination is a distraction.

It keeps you preoccupied with something other than what needs to be done

For instance, putting off an uncomfortable phone call and all the mental, emotional, even physical drain that comes from that...

This distracts you from opportunities and your true path.

The miracles the Universe sets out for you will be over looked.

Pointers as to your next, best step, are unclear.

Procrastination keeps you "spinning your wheels".

It keeps you from your purpose.



SO WHY DO WE DO IT?

I really had to dig deep to find the reasons why I procrastinated so much.

I refused to have an Astrological trait dictate how I would approach my goals and dreams.

What I discovered was pretty eye-opening.

Fear and overwhelm.

For me, these were the biggest culprits.

Fear of failure and fear of success.

Overwhelm from what needs to be done and the change that will follow once you're finished.

The irony is, what we fear is what we need to do.

HOW TO STOP

I'm not going to mess with perfection.

The research I did for this post was varied and very interesting.

Leonie Dawson's answer is to just do what you have to do.

If that's too much, RealSimple.com and LifeHack.org, both have great tips for moving past procrastination.

And, this article from Entrepreneur.com, about Jerry Seinfeld, was very inspiring.

BUT MOST OF ALL...

Don't take it so seriously.

Procrastination can teach you a lot about yourself.

If you really look at why you are procrastinating, there's a lot of growth to be had, there.


If you quit looking at it as a huge character flaw, its power will lessen.

Giving you a little extra push, right when you need it.

Empowering you to get it done!

Love and hugs,


P.S.  I'm thrilled to be offering my signature, Personal Insight Reading, again!

Want to get unstuck?  Want specific direction as to which is the next step for you?  Want to streamline your choices so you can achieve your dreams even quicker?  Want to make your dreams your reality by knowing exactly what action to take?  No matter what it is: business, love, personal, work, I can help you tune into your own inner wisdom so you can make the best decisions for you.

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Tuesday, November 25, 2014

How To Make Your Dreams Your Reality: 3 Simple Steps


A client was venting to me the other day.

She was undertaking a new venture and was disappointed with how long it was taking.

"I just get so overwhelmed and frustrated because everything takes so much longer than I think and other stuff keeps taking me away from it."

Yup.

That's life.

Whenever we're in the midst of doing something we've never done before we really have to learn how to surrender in order to stay focused and on track.

Otherwise you end up like my client and waste even more time by engaging in the states of "overwhelm" and "frustration".

MAP IT OUT!

You know I love the concept of a Time Map, simply because it is designed to take this reality into consideration.

You will never be on task 100% of the time.

It's impossible.

Ken and I are lucky if we average 65%.

Others average as much as 80%.

It all depends on how your life unfolds that day.

The great thing is, when you are finished dealing with whatever it is that's taken you off your path, you have a guide you can return to so you can determine the best use of your time.

3 SIMPLE STEPS...

This is the key to accomplishing any dream or goal:

  • Accept the fact that you will be taken away from whatever tasks you want to accomplish.
  • As soon as you're able to get back on track, make the best choice for that moment.
  • Never give up.

Look, life happens.

Stop fighting it and use it as a chance to surrender.

The act of surrendering will actually catapult you further, more quickly, because it allows you to bend and sway with change, as you no longer waste time and energy resisting it.

Love and hugs,















P.S.  It's that time of year!  The closer it gets to the end of the year, the more excited I get because my favorite mentor, Leonie Dawson, releases the latest version of her Create Your Shining Year - Life and Biz workbooks.  I have used them for three years now and I have to say they are the best tool ever, for clarifying your dreams and goals, as well as mapping out how you will achieve them. They are uplifting, affordable and this year she has released a hard copy as well.  So exciting!  Check them out for yourself :)

P.P.S If you choose to purchase this great tool through the above link, I will receive "thank you" money from Leonie Dawson for pointing you in her direction. I only post and recommend products and services that I have had a personally, transformative experience with.  If this doesn't sit well with you, no worries. Just Google the planner to enter through another door.  Thanks!



Thursday, November 20, 2014

How To Discover Your Purpose!



You know how the Universe will send you off on a task that makes absolutely no sense?

The kind of task that you know better than to not do, because your gut is telling you this is the way to go?

You move forward on faith, and that's that!

Well, this is where I'm at.

I've been beta testing my first eClass, Brilliant Blogging!, and in the midst of this great undertaking, I was moved to revisit my HubPages.com account.

This is the platform I left over three years ago, to start SacredCyberSpace.com, because I wanted to do my own thing, my own way.

DOES NOT COMPUTE!

To me, this makes absolutely no sense, but I had an idea pour out of me the other day that felt more like a hub, than something I wanted to blog over here.

Oddly enough, I've always gotten a lot of traffic from my HubPage account, so I knew it wasn't the worst idea in the world.

On the other hand, I had some baggage that really made me scoff at the idea.

I always hated that HubPages took a huge percentage of the revenue I earned from the Google Ads - so much so, that in a fit of boredom and resentment one day, I clicked on my own ads, completely forgetting that I wasn't allowed to do that.

So, I left.

No money for me, yet HubPages got their cut; it just did not compute.

DISCOVER YOUR PURPOSE


So, this is it.

My latest hub.

Check it out.

I'm pretty pleased with it and I hope it will help even more women who need my guidance, find me.

Love and hugs,


P.S.  I'm thrilled to be offering my signature, Personal Insight Reading, again!

Want to get unstuck?  Want specific direction as to which is the next step for you?  Want to streamline your choices so you can achieve your dreams even quicker?  Want to make your dreams your reality by knowing exactly what action to take?  No matter what it is: business, love, personal, work, I can help you tune into your own inner wisdom so you can make the best decisions for you.

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Monday, November 17, 2014

A New Space


You know, I love to share the miracles I experience in my life.

It's human nature to want to shout it from the rooftops when we allow the Universe to flow and are able to bear witness to its brilliance.

I like to share my experiences, so you know that miracles and manifestation are possible for you and everyone you know.

On the other hand, I also like to share the lessons I learn from the challenges I experience in my life, as well.


LESSON ONE...

By this point, I've learned that with each miracle always comes the opportunity to grow.

Sort of like poor Peter Parker/Spiderman, who learned that "with great power comes great responsibility", but without all the Uncle Ben dying stuff.  ;-)

Stan Lee is the man!  This is just brilliant.

The Universe says "Good, I'm glad you're accepting this into your life. Now, let me show you why I want you to have it and how we're going to use it."


FOR INSTANCE...

My amazing experience with my day job has been another one of those "humbled by the wisdom of the Universe" moments, for me.

The more I go to my job, the more I see the Universe's divine plan.

The nurse I work with has family in the town I grew up in Pennsylvania; the place I retreated to so I could truly surrender my work situation.,

And the teacher I work with - her brother managed the country club in my hometown.

This stuff always blows my mind - these coincidences - these whispers from the Universe.

Which brings me to the next lesson.

With this miraculous opportunity came several challenges -  which - now that I've walked through them and settled into the new space they were taking me to - have made my new work environment even more wonderful than even I could have envisioned on my own.


LESSON TWO...

I arrived in my new classroom at the tail end of a round of upper respiratory infections.

Of course, I got sick, but thanks to a long weekend and all of the immune boosters I take, I only missed one day of work.

Unfortunately, this made the transition from being picked up for work at my front door everyday, to taking the bus to and from work everyday, very difficult.

I had very high levels of anxiety for a couple of mornings, which went away once I got to work.

Sure, I didn't feel well, but I'm older now than I've ever been (ha!) and I could feel that "aging/resisting change" thing going on - Big Time!

It was a wake up call.

I had let the stress from my other job get in the way of caring for my physical body.

I did not adapt to all of the physical activity as quickly as I have in the past, either.

The walks to and from the bus stop were not as uplifting as I had originally anticipated, due to some weak muscles, as well as being ill.

If I had been more physically fit, it would have been easier to cope with the "aging" stuff, as well as the increased activity.

With this great miracle came the opportunity to heal my body.

A NEW SPACE...

I am getting stronger every day.

All the aging stiffness is slowly ebbing away.

Ten years of stress side effects are simply floating away.

All of this has taken me to a new place.

A new way of being.

All thanks to allowing miracles into my life.

Namaste,


P.S.  I'm thrilled to be offering my signature, Personal Insight Reading, again!

Want to get unstuck?  Want specific direction as to which is the next step for you?  Want to streamline your choices so you can achieve your dreams even quicker?  Want to make your dreams your reality by knowing exactly what action to take?  No matter what it is: business, love, personal, work, I can help you tune into your own inner wisdom so you can make the best decisions for you.

Get your very own PERSONAL INSIGHT READING, now!!!!














Tuesday, November 11, 2014

The All New + Personal Insight Reading!



I know.

I know.

I said it was too much and I put it on a shelf, never completely convinced that I was going to walk away from it forever.

NEW LIFE...

I have breathed new life into my signature, Personal Insight Reading, a Tarot reading I designed to get you unstuck and back in motion - pronto!

This new version is short, sweet and to the point.

I'm still using the previous, more in-depth version for private coaching clients and for the basis of an upcoming class.

It's not completely gone.

I'M OVER IT!

I've gotten over my concerns about being seen as a "fortune teller", having still found a way to help you tap into your own intuition, while taking in my insights.

This is going to be great news for those of you who were put off by the cost and in depth process of the original reading.

If you're just looking for a reading, this is for you.

I'm thrilled to be able to offer this great tool, again.

It has helped so many women (myself included!) move on and get unstuck.

It was a shame to not offer it in a more convenient fashion.

THE NEW READING...

Yes!  I listened to you.

I have not changed the reading, but I have changed what I'm sharing with you.

As I said, it's now short, sweet and to the point.



You will receive your reading --


As well as an Intuition Worksheet, to help you organize the the guidance you receive while going through the reading.




THIS WAY EVERYONE IS HAPPY!

You're happy because you can get to the heart of the matter, quickly, efficiently and economically.

I'm happy because I don't feel like an enabler (the "fortune teller" people come to for all the answers), because you still have to listen to your gut to get things moving.


I'D LOVE TO HELP YOU GET UNSTUCK...

Since I'm not doing such a detailed reading, the cost is 1/3 of the original reading.

Now there's something that doesn't happen every day.

A saving of 2/3!

My signature, Personal Insight Reading is...


   


JUST LIKE BEFORE...
  • Make your payment 
  • Then email me your question or the challenge you've been chewing on. 
    • Be sure to include: [Reading] in your email subject
    •  AS WELL AS THE NAME YOU USED FOR YOUR PAYMENT 
  • Then I'll be able to help you get unstuck and on your way. 
Your complete reading will be emailed to you within 48 hours of receiving your email.

The Personal Insight Reading is designed to guide you to your own inner-wisdom, the only place to get the best answers for you.

   


I'm so excited and can't wait to hear from you!

Love and Hugs,














Thursday, November 6, 2014

Jack Canfield's + Success Formula



Oh my goodness!

I'm not going to lie and say that I spoke with Jack Canfield and he agreed to share an article here at SacredCyberSpace.com.

Sounds kind of impressive though, doesn't it?

The reality is that he's a very smart man, knows his own Success Formula and is not afraid to give blanket permission for reprints of his articles.

This really spoke to me, arrived just when I needed to read it and I'm thrilled I get to share it here with you!

Love and hugs,











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The Formula that Puts You in Control of Success

(Originally published - October 21, 2014)  by Jack Canfield


What prevents you from achieving the success you want?

Is it a lack of money, free time, or opportunities at work? Have you not achieved your goals because of the economy, what your business colleagues have done (or not done), or the lack of motivation among your employees? Perhaps you place the blame on how you were raised or on your family for not giving you the proper amount and type of support.

If you responded to my question with a laundry list of reasons why you aren't where you want to be, you’re not alone. Most people automatically find excuses and blame others when things don’t work out the way they want. This seems to be particularly true in the United States, where many people buy into the myth that we are entitled to success and happiness – that someone else should be giving us what we want.

However, if unlimited success is your goal, looking outside of yourself is a strategic error. The most important lesson you must understand that you are 100 percent responsible for your life – the good and the bad.

The formula I like to use to explain this concept is:

E + R = O 
(Events + Responses = Outcome)

The basic idea is that every outcome you experience in life (whether it's success or failure, wealth or poverty, wellness or illness, intimacy or estrangement, joy or frustration) is the result of how you have responded to an earlier event in your life. Likewise, if you want to change the results you get in the future, you must change how you respond to events in your life … starting today.

What Most People Do

When people don’t like the outcomes they are experiencing, most choose to blame the event (E) for their lack of results (O).

In other words, you can blame the economy, the weather, the lack of money, lack of education, racism, gender bias, the current administration in Washington, your wife or husband, your boss's attitude, the lack of support, and so on. If you're a golfer, you've probably even blamed your clubs or the course you've played on – but never yourself. This is what most people do.

It’s true that these factors exist and that they impact you. However, if they were the deciding factor in whether someone succeeded or not, nobody would ever succeed. For every reason it's not possible, there are hundreds of people who have faced the same circumstances and succeeded.

The deciding factor in success is not the external conditions and circumstances. It's how you choose to respond (R).

We think limiting thoughts and engage in self-defeating behaviors. We defend our self-destructive habits (such as drinking and smoking) with indefensible logic.

We ignore useful feedback, fail to continuously educate ourselves and learn new skills, waste time on the trivial aspects of our lives, engage in idle gossip, eat unhealthy food, fail to exercise, spend more than we make, fail to tell the truth, don't ask for what we want, and then wonder why our lives aren't working.

What Successful People Do

Successful people take a different approach to events. They simply change their responses (R) to the events (E) until they get the outcomes (O) they want.

You can change your thinking, change your communication, change the pictures you hold in your head (your images of the world) and you can change your behavior (the things you do). That's all you really have control over anyway.

Unfortunately, most of us are being run by our habits. We get stuck in conditioned responses to our spouses and children, to our work colleagues, to our customers and our clients, to our students, and to the world at large.

You have to gain control of your thoughts, your images, your dreams, daydreams, and your behavior. Everything you think, say, and do need to become intentional and aligned with your purpose, your values, and your goals.

If you don't like your outcomes, change your responses.

The Formula in Action

You don’t have to look far to find examples of how this works: consider the economy.

When the Gulf War broke out, a friend of mine who owns a Lexus dealership in Southern California turned to this formula to guide him through the resulting impact on the economy. People stopped coming in to buy Lexuses, so he knew that his normal response (R) of running newspaper and radio ads wouldn’t be good enough to keep his business afloat. The outcome (O) he was experiencing was a steady decrease of visitors to his showroom, as well as sales.

So they tried a number of new things. Some didn’t work; some did. One of the strategies that worked was driving a fleet of new cars to where the rich people were – the country clubs, the marinas, polo grounds, parties in Beverly Hills and Westlake Village – and inviting them to take a test drive.

Have you ever test-driven a new car and then gotten back into your old car? Suddenly your old car wasn’t good enough – you wanted the new car! The same thing happened for the people who took a Lexus for a spin, and many bought or leased a new car.

By changing their response (R) to an unexpected event (E) – the war -- the dealership eventually got the outcome (O) they wanted … increased sales. In fact, they ended up selling more new cars per week than before the war broke out.

If we all experience the same event, the outcome you get will be totally dependent upon your response to the situation.

Carefully choose how you respond to events – how you choose to interpret events, how you choose to think about and talk about what happened, how you choose to act -- If you want to achieve better outcomes. Remember, you control your destiny … so make it a fantastic one!


Jack Canfield, America's #1 Success Coach, is founder of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul®and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life Success. If you're ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com

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